Resources

 

Interesting Podcasts:

Huberman Lab

Mel Robbins

Gettin’ Busy Living

The School of Greatness

Modern Wisdom

Relationship Radio

Books:

Well Being

• How to Be Your Own Best Friend – 2016 by Mildred Newman, Bernard Berkowitz, & Martin E. P. Seligman
• Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones – 2018 by James Clear
• Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life – 2006 by Martin E. P. Seligman
• The Highly Sensitive Person – 1997 by Elaine N. Aron Ph.D.
• Choosing Brilliant Health: 9 Choices That Redefine What It Takes to Create Lifelong Vitality and Well-Being – 2008 by Rick Foster, Greg Hicks, and M.D., Jen Seda
• The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom – 2011 by Don Miguel Ruiz and Nicholas Wilton
• The Book of Awakening: Having the Life You Want by Being Present to the Life You Have – 2011 by Mark Nepo

Mindfulness and Meditation

• Meditation Manual: Simple Directions For A Life-Changing Practice – 2021 by Peggy Ludington
• Leave Your Mind Behind: The Everyday Practice of Finding Stillness Amid Rushing Thoughts – 2007 by Matthew McKay
• Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom – 2009 by Rick Hanson
• Just One Thing: Developing A Buddha Brain One Simple Practice at a Time – 2011 by Rick Hanson

Boundaries

• The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can’t Stop Talking About – 2024 by Mel Robbins, Sawyer Robbins

Dating

• Dating Sucks, but You Don’t: The Modern Guy’s Guide to Total Confidence, Romantic Connection, and Finding the Perfect Partner – 2021 by Connell Barrett

Relationships

• Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship – 2024 by Terrence Real
• The Love Prescription: Seven Days to More Intimacy, Connection, and Joy – 2022 by John Gottman, PhD & Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD
• Communication Miracles for Couples: Easy and Effective Tools to Create More Love and Less Conflict – 2012 by Jonathan Robinson
• The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate – 1995 by Gary Chapman
• How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It – 2008 by Patricia Love and Steven Stosny
• Please Understand Me II: Temperament, Character, Intelligence – 1998 by David Keirsey
• Mars and Venus Together Forever: Relationship Skills for Lasting Love – 1996 by John Gray
• The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work – 2000 by John M. Gottman and Nan Silver
• Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love – 2008 by Sue Johnson
• Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage – 2007 by John M. Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman, and Joan Declaire
• Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence – 2007 by Esther Perel
• Passionate Marriage – 2009 by David Schnarch

Forgiveness

• Forgive for Good – 2003 by Frederic Luskin
• Forgive for Love: The Missing Ingredient for a Healthy and Lasting Relationship – 2009 by Fred Luskin

Retirement and Aging

• From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life – 2022 by Arthur C. Brooks
• Outlive: The Science and Art of Longevity – 2017 by Peter Attia, MD & Bill Gifford 
• Being Mortal – 2023 by Atul Gawande
• The Blue Zones, Second Edition: 9 Lessons for Living Longer From the People Who’ve Lived the Longest – 2012 by Dan Buettner
• The Inner Work of Age: Shifting from Role to Soul – 2021 by Connie Zweig
• Elderhood – 2021 by Louise Aronson

Parenting

• The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness – 2024 by Jonathan Haidt
• Good Inside: A Practical Guide to Resilient Parenting Prioritizing Connection Over Correction – 2022 by Becky Kennedy
• How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success – 2015 by Julie Lythcott-Haims
• Transforming The Difficult Child Workbook: An Interactive Guide to the Nurtured Heart Approach – 2008 by Howard Glasser, Joann Bowdidge, & Lisa Bravo
• 1-2-3 Magic: Gentle 3-Step Child & Toddler Discipline for Calm, Effective, and Happy Parenting – 2016 by Thomas Phelan PhD
• The Incredible Years: Trouble Shooting Guide for Parents of Children Aged 3-8 Years – 2019 by Carolyn Webster-Stratton
• Parenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive – 2013 by Daniel J. Siegel M.D. & Mary Hartzell
• Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child – 1993 by John Gottman, Joan Declaire, and Daniel Goleman
• Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls – 2005 by Mary Pipher and Ruth Ross
• The Wonder of Boys – 2006 by Michael Gurian
• The Wonder of Girls: Understanding the Hidden Nature of Our Daughters – 2003 by Michael Gurian
• Getting to Calm: Cool-Headed Strategies for Parenting Tweens + Teens – 2009 by Laura S Kastner Ph.D.
• Unhooked: How Young Women Pursue Sex, Delay Love and Lose at Both – 2008 by Laura Sessions Stepp

For Children

• What to Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Anxiety – 2024 by Dawn Huebner and Bonnie Matthews
• What to Do When Your Temper Flares: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Problems With Anger – 2025 by Dawn Huebner and Bonnie Matthews
• What to Do When You Dread Your Bed: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Problems With Sleep – 2026 by Dawn Huebner and Bonnie Matthews
• What to Do When Your Brain Gets Stuck: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming OCD – 2017 by Dawn Huebner and Bonnie Matthews

Grief and Loss

• Resilient Grieving, Second Edition: How to Find Your Way Through Devastating Loss – 2024 by Lucy Hone PhD
• How to Survive the Loss of a Love – 1993 by Peter McWilliams, Harold H. Bloomfield, and Melba Colgrove
• Farewell, My Friend: A Step-By-Step Guide to Handling a Serious Illness and Even the Death of a Loved One – 2008 by Beatrice Toney Bailey
• When Bad Things Happen to Good People – 2004 by Harold S. Kushner
• Gentle Closings: How To Say Goodbye To Someone You Love – 1992 by Theodore Menten
• On Death and Dying – 1969 by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, M.D.
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For Children

• The Fall of Freddie the Leaf: A Story of Life for All Ages – 1982 by Leo F. Buscaglia
• Tear Soup – 2005 by Chuck DeKlyen, Taylor Bills and Pat Schwiebert
• The Invisible String – 2000 by Patrice Karst and Geoff Stevenson
• Water Bugs and Dragonflies: Explaining Death to Young Children – 2010 by Doris Stickney and Robyn Henderson Nordstrom

Family Estrangement

• Rules of Estrangement: Why Adult Children Cut Ties & How to Heal the Conflict – 2024 by Joshua Coleman PhD

Codependency

• The Disease To Please: Curing the People-Pleasing Syndrome – 2002 by Harriet B. Braiker
• Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency – 2024 by Terri Cole MSW LCSW

 

 

Adult Children and Emotionally Immature Parents

• Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents – 2015 by Lindsay C. Gibson

Divorce

• Parent Wars: Dealing with an Ex to Build Emotionally Healthy Kids – 2015 by Dr Donald R Partridge
• The Good Divorce – 1995 by Constance Ahrons
• Mom’s House, Dad’s House: Making Two Homes for Your Child – 1997 by Isolina Ricci
• Always Dad: Being a Great Father During & After Divorce – 2006 by Paul Mandelstein
• New Beginnings After Divorce – 2024 by Colleen Stone
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Trauma Recovery

• Getting Past Your Past: Take Control of Your Life with Self-Help Techniques from EMDR Therapy – 2013 by Francine Shapiro
• What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing – 2021 by Oprah Winfrey & Bruce D. Perry M.D. Ph.D
• The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma – 2014 by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.

ADHD and Executive Functioning

• BRAIN HACKS: Life-Changing Strategies to Improve Executive Functioning – 2018 by Lara Honos-Webb PhD
• ADD-Friendly Ways to Organize Your Life: Strategies that Work from an Acclaimed Professional Organizer and a Renowned ADD Clinician – 2016 by Judith Kolberg & Kathleen Nadeau
• This Year I Will…: How to Finally Change a Habit, Keep a Resolution, or Make a Dream Come True – 2006 by M.J. Ryan
• Organize Your Mind, Organize Your Life: Train Your Brain to Get More Done in Less Time – 2011 by Paul Graves Hammerness

Narcissism

• It’s Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People – 2024 by Ramani Durvasula PhD
• Why Is It Always About You? : The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism – 2003 by Sandy Hotchkiss and James F. Masterson
• The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family – 2002 by Eleanor Payson
• Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers – 2009 by Karyl McBride

Anger

• The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships – 2005 by Harriet Lerner
• When Anger Hurts Your Relationship: 10 Simple Solutions for Couples Who Fight – 2001 by Kim Paleg and Matthew McKay
• Anger: Deal with It, Heal with It, Stop It from Killing You – 2004 by William G. DeFoore
• What to Do When Your Temper Flares: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Problems With Anger – 2025 by Dawn Huebner and Bonnie Matthews

Anxiety

• Taming Your Amygdala: Brain-Based Strategies to Quiet the Anxious Mind – 2022 by Catherine M. Pittman
• Rewire Your Anxious Brain: How to Use the Neuroscience of Fear to End Anxiety, Panic, and Worry – 2015 by Catherine M. Pittman PhD & Elizabeth M. Karle MLIS
• Don’t Panic Third Edition: Taking Control of Anxiety Attacks – 2009 by Reid Wilson
• Calming Your Anxious Mind: How Mindfulness & Compassion Can Free You from Anxiety, Fear, & Panic – 2007 by Jeffrey, M.D. Brantley
• The Worry Cure: Seven Steps to Stop Worry from Stopping You – 2006 by Robert L. Leahy
• What to Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Anxiety – 2024 by Dawn Huebner and Bonnie Matthews
• Transforming Anxiety: The Heartmath Solution to Overcoming Fear And Worry And Creating Serenity– 2006 by Doc Lew Childre
• The Hoarder in You: How to Live a Happier, Healthier, Uncluttered Life – 2011 by Robin Zasio

Depression

• The Mindfulness & Acceptance Workbook for Depression – 2017 by Kirk D. Strosahl and Patricia J. Robinson
• Get It Done When You’re Depressed – 2008 by Julie A. Fast and John D. Presto
• The 10 Best-Ever Depression Management Techniques – 2011 by Margaret Wehrenberg

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

• Rewind, Replay, Repeat: A Memoir of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder – 2006 by Jeff Bell
• Stop Obsessing!: How to Overcome Your Obsessions and Compulsions (Revised Edition) – 2001 by Edna B. Foa and Reid Wilson
• Brain Lock: Free Yourself from Obsessive-Compulsive Behavior – 1997 by Jeffrey M. Schwartz and Beverly Beyette
• What to Do When Your Brain Gets Stuck: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming OCD – 2017 by Dawn Huebner and Bonnie Matthews

Bipolar Disorder

• The Bipolar Disorder Survival Guide: What You and Your Family Need to Know – 2002 by David J. Miklowitz
• Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder – 2004 by Julie A. Fast and John D. Preston Psy D ABPP

Borderline Personality Disorder

• I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality – 1989 by Jerold J. Kreisman and Hal Straus
• Surviving a Borderline Parent: How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds & Build Trust, Boundaries, and Self-Esteem – 2004 by Kimberlee Roth, Freda B. Friedman and Randi Kreger

Helpful Links:

• American Psychological Association — http://www.apa.org/topics/
• Sacramento Valley Psychological Association — http://sacramentovalleypsychologist.com/
• National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) — http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/index.shtml
• Mayo Clinic — http://www.mayoclinic.com/
• Anxiety Disorders Association of America — http://www.adaa.org/
• Obsessive-Compulsive Foundation — http://www.ocfoundation.org/
• Women Escaping a Violent Environment — http://www.weaveinc.org/
• Gambler’s Anonymous — http://www.gamblersanonymous.org/
• Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA) — http://www.adultchildren.org/
• Al-Anon/Alateen Family Group Headquarters — http://www.al-anon.org/

Hotlines:

• Suicide & Crisis Lifeline – dial 988
• Domestic Violence Hotline – 1-800-799-SAFE
• Eating Disorder Hotline – 1-800-931-2237
• Sexual Assault Hotline – 1-800-656-4673
• Emergency – Call 911 or visit your local hospital